Thursday, 31 August 2017

Achieving Your Goals by Jason Johns

You may or may not have a set of written goals. If you do not, then I strongly urge you to make a written set of goals and clarify what you want to achieve. Whatever the case, you may be struggling with achieving your goals in life. In this article, you will learn some techniques for achieving your goals.


Think of a time in your life when you achieved something you really wanted. Did you doubt it would happen and believe that you could not achieve it? Or did you have a solid sense of knowing that it would happen and doubt never entered into your mind?

It was the second wasn’t it?

When Richard Branson set up Virgin Airways, did he sit in his office and wonder if it would ever work? Did Bill Gates sit in his office wondering if anyone would want to buy his Windows product? They may have done for a little while, but they did not let these doubts rule them. They knew their plans would work and that they would be successful.
When working to achieve your goals, you need that unerring sense of confidence and lack of doubt in yourself. You must Know it is going to happen and that you will succeed. We are not talking about thinking you will succeed, believing you will succeed or knowing you will achieve your goal. They
are all intellectual forms of Knowing, Knowing with a capital K; that solid feeling in the pit of your stomach that you will make happen and you cannot fail. Expect it to happen and know there is no other way. It will happen. This Knowing gives you drive and commitment to see you through to the success of your goal.

But how do you get this feeling? 

1) One of the best and most effective techniques is visualisation.

You currently use the power of visualisation, probably without even realising it. Have you ever run through what you are going to say to someone before you have the conversation? Or seen yourself in your mind giving a presentation before you give it?

That is the power of visualisation, and it is very potent. You can use it not only for your goals, but for any aspect of your life. Visualisation is something most people are unused to directing. You will find initially that your attention wil
l wander, but you have to pull it back to the task at hand. It is similar to building a muscle up through exercise – it takes time to strengthen it.

The exercise for visualising your goals is very simple, and is as follows.


  • Select the goal that you wish to work with


  • Picture an image of this goal in your mind


  • Visualise yourself attaining your goal. Use all of your senses – touch, hearing, sight, smell, and taste. Really feel your success with every fibre of your being and Know that your goal is as good as achieved.


  • Hold this image in your mind for a minimum of 10 minutes – remain focused and positive. Challenge any doubts that rise and replace them with positive words and images of success. If you get distracted or your mind wanders, bring your focus back to your goal.


You can also hold this successful image in your mind as you go about your day to day business. Keep the image there and focus on your success. You get what you focus on – and if you focus on achieving your goal, then you will get it. Visualisation is a method of programming the subconscious mind for success.

With some goals you may want to keep them private. If you are trying to get fit and your friends know you have been less than energetic in the past when you tell them your goal, they will laugh and joke and not believe you. This doubt and disbelief can affect your belief in yourself and in your goal, which in turn can lead to failure to achieve the goal.

It is hard enough to overcome our own doubts and worries without having to also overcome those of the people around you. Keep any goals where you may be influenced by others to yourself and let the people around you see the successful end result.

2) Affirming Success
Another method for achieving your goals is to use affirmations, which means you repeat your goal again and again to yourself. This is another method of programming your subconscious mind, which is the source of all action.
An affirmation is a sentence or two that is written in a positive language
with definite targets and timescales. A bad affirmation would be “I want to lose some weight.” Your subconscious looks at this and since there is no timescale it will not leap into action. There is also no definite target so your subconscious does not know what to aim for. How is “some weight” defined? It is 10 pounds, but also 1 pound and also just 1 ounce.

A good affirmation is “I want to lose 10 pounds by the end of this year.” This sends the right messages to your subconscious. It knows that you exactly how much you have to lose (10 pounds) and when this must be done by (the end of this year). You know precisely what you have to do and when it has to be done by.

If the goal is to lose 10 pounds by the end of the year, we need an action plan to get us to this goal and to make it happen. In this case the action plan may be to reduce our chocolate intake and increase the amount of fruits and vegetables we consume. The action plan is made up of a series of milestones. For example, if there are 5 months until the end of the year then our milestones would be to lose 2 pounds each month.

3) Little Steps
You may have a big goal such as “To have an income in excess of £100,000 a year by the time I am 35” (notice the goal is specific in both the timescale and the amount and does not put an upper limit on your earning potential.)

This goal can be very daunting to look at, perhaps even enough for you to give up and not strive to achieve it. To overcome this, you break your goal down into
a number of smaller, more manageable steps.

Any large goal can be broken down into a number of sub-goals, which can then be broken down even further if necessary. Each of the sub-goals has an associated action plan with it. Using our income goal from above, sub-goals could be to understand taxation, to understand investment, to start your own company, and so on.

Smaller goals are easier for you to handle, and help you to stay on course to your main goal. You also get the satisfaction of regularly having successes and achieving goals, which does wonders for your belief in yourself.

All of your major goals and their associated sub-goals and action plans need to be regularly reviewed – ideally daily. This ensures you remain focussed on your goals and instantly know if you start to drift away from your target. It allows you to adjust your goals and action plan according to whether things are working quicker or slower than planned. It also prevents you from repeating actions and carrying out tasks that are not necessary. It keeps the goals in the forefront of your mind, and does not allow you to forget about them.

Achieving our goals is something we all want to do, but it involves work. Rarely will they be given to us on a silver platter by a servant on bended knee. Achievement requires Knowing, drive and commitment, combined with careful and meticulous planning and a firm belief in ourselves. With unwavering belief and commitment there is nothing that you cannot achieve. Everything and anything is within your grasp – if you are willing to make the commitment to achieving it.

Sunday, 27 August 2017

If You Can Give Me Only One Tip to Improve My Life, What Would It Be? By Brian Lee

Have you ever noticed how many books exist in the “Self-help” aisle of any given bookstore? There are hundreds upon hundreds. There are so many tips to improve your life if you search, but it can be challenging to find a focus, especially if you read a lot without truly adapting any tips or taking action. One individual felt overwhelmed and asked via Quora, “If you could give me one tip to improve my life, what would it be?” We’ve chosen the best answers that received the most upvotes:

1) Keep your promises (including those made to yourself). This doesn’t just apply to the promises you make to other people, but the promises you make to yourself.

In nearly any film you watch, one of the characters is going to make a promise. Whether or not he keeps that promise will determine the entire plot for the remainder of the film. While most movies are fictional, like Harry Potter promising to find all the horcruxes and kill Voldemort, the kept promises still stick with us in reality. So imagine how impactful it would be if you began keeping all your promises.“It doesn’t matter whether the story is big or small, long or short, funny or sad. It doesn’t matter how the challenge surfaces and who’s fighting for what. At some point, someone always says to themselves: ‘I will do this.'”

2) Realize that everything is temporary
This answer got 19k upvotes. The parable that exists as the root of this answer revolves around a king asking his subjects for a way to make himself happy when he’s sad and sad when he’s happy. After much thought and consideration, the conclusion they came to was this: Remember that this too shall pass. “The quote teaches you to enjoy the moment. You may be at the happiest point in your life, but that happiness isn’t permanent, so you should enjoy it while it lasts. But, if you feel miserable, the quote shows you that your sadness isn’t indefinite. Soon you’ll be back to normal.” When you’re in a difficult situation, it helps to remember it’s temporary; it won’t be difficult forever. Likewise, when you’re in a happy situation, it can be important to realize the same thing in order to avoid taking anything for granted. Enjoy the good times while they’re good, and remember good times will come when the situation seems bleak 3.

3) Simply run. You’ll learn to persist
Running teaches you to persist, even if your body wants to stop. It helps you learn to focus on a singular goal and not stop until you get there.You’ll feel more confident and strong. It can also provide the perfect excuse to listen to a podcast or even that new album you’ve been meaning to check out. Bette says, “You will also be able to learn things because podcasts and books are some of the best things to listen to while you are on a long run.”

4) Give 100% (even if you may not want to)
In life, there are going to be times when we don’t want to give it our all. It could be situational, or we could just be having an off day. But it could be that the thing we’re doing is emotionally or physically challenging. In this moments, giving a half-hearted effort could seem like a solution, but that’s just not the case. No one ever shares a success story by starting with, “It all began when I was giving about 50% of an effort…”. Even Will Smith knows the power of trying hard. In fact, he once said, “If it was something that I really committed myself to, I don’t think there’s anything that could stop me becoming President of the United States.” The Price of Success is Hard Work.

5) Work smarter, not harder.
Abraham Lincoln once said, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree, and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” Most people would use all six hours to do the actual cutting, but planning for a task and sharpening skills can help you accomplish a task in much less time.

6) Live in reality, not a social media feed.
We have all been guilty of it: scrolling endlessly through a social media newsfeed, even when someone is speaking to us. It can keep you up at night and make you super anti-social despite how much you feel that you’re interacting with other.
When you scroll endlessly on social media platforms, you’re wasting your time and becoming a little addicted to your smart device. When you spend a majority of your day flirting with girls you’ve never actually met, you could be doing something productive instead. But here’s the thing: deep down, you already know what’s good for you. So listen to yourself! It’s like Verma says, “Stop asking others [what’s good for you], analyze yourself, and start implementing those things in your life which you already know that are good for you(but haven’t tried to implement yet) and eventually you will get the solution to most of the problems in your life.” 

So what do all of these tips have in common? It comes down to living in the present, taking care of yourself and remembering you are greater than any hardship. You have the power to change things, including your life, and the only thing holding you back is you. Imagine what a few simple changes could lead to in the long-term. So what are you waiting for? Start changing your life for the better today.

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Tuesday, 22 August 2017

Understanding the Power of Your Mouth (Learn to listen and choose your words carefully) by Pamala J. Vincent

Words matter. Our tongue has the power to build or to destroy. One of our strongest assets is the ability to communicate through many means but particularly through speaking. The words we choose, the
tone and inflection can fill a person’s soul for flight, or bore holes in their heart. We’ve all done it. We’ve all had it done to us. How do we consistently think before we speak?

Become an astute observer.

When you enter a room do you bring energy or suck it dry? Watch people. Listen to their tone when they address each other. Observe the words they choose. Then turn that observation on yourself. How do you measure your words? Do your words inspire others or make them flinch? Watch their reactions.

Listen more than talk.

Some people process aloud, so don’t offer solutions too quickly. Let them walk through their feelings and emotions so they can untangle their thoughts. Placing yourself in the other person’s shoes may give you a better viewpoint to their perspective. Listen with an open mind. Focus on what the person is saying and hold your opinions. Once you have the entire story, only then can you offer help.

Don’t be quick to judge.

Every person has a story, take the time to find out what it is. Try to see past the mask, the guarding and the limited information. Your job is to equip, empower and accept where they are and let them
tell their story. Try not to be quick to come up with advice or a solution. Sometimes all they need is a sounding board or a sympathetic ear.

Choose your words carefully.

Eliminate from your vocabulary all the words that draw negative energy into your life and others. Replace these life draining words with positive energy raising conversations. Capture negative self-talk, change the way you talk to yourself. Quote verses, speeches, positive affirmation quotes; anything to stop the degrading internal conversations.

Understand your next words.

Listen attentively. Remember what a person says. Don’t interrupt. Don’t pretend the problem isn’t a problem. Stay away from phrases like “It’ll be okay,” (it might not be), “Get over it,” (it’s dismissive), “It’s not the end of the world,” (maybe for you but it feels like it). Don’t discuss your problems as if they’re similar to theirs. Avoid minimizing their situation. Don’t change the subject, let them talk. Then measure your next words as carefully. Try to discern how your words will be heard or felt if you were the receiver. Then remember that not everyone responds the way you do. I personally like to have it straight from the hip, no sugar coating involved, but not everyone is comfortable with hearing all of the truth at once.

Give good feedback.

When someone has shared something difficult, be sure to summarize before you jump in with advice. Try saying, “Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think I hear you saying . . .” to summarize what they told you. Then remember if they’re sharing something stupid they did or admitting they were wrong, you don’t need to tell them or remind them, they already know. Words like, “I told you so, or what were you thinking” do nothing to move the conversation forward.

Ask for permission.

After a person has bared their soul to you and you’ve successfully held your tongue, ask for permission to give them a solution or advice by saying, “I have some ideas, do you want to know what I think?” If they say no, then leave it alone for another day, but if they say yes, stay on your single focused ‘take-away’ point. It will be tempting to give them all your thoughts but that can be like getting a drink of water out of a fire hose for the receiver. Give them one idea and then leave it alone.

Give them credit.

Remember, to have advice fall on fertile soil, you need to have a receptive listener. One way to help them hear your words of counsel is to use the sandwich method. Sandwich the hard info between praises. For example, “I know your heart and know you don’t mean any harm but maybe you need to have boundaries with them, you’re such a loyal friend they’ll understand.” The real point
of your comment is “you need boundaries” but it’s sandwiched with positive statements that keep your listener attentive. Then finish your talk with, “You’re so wise in these situations, what are you going to do?” Respect them enough to not solve the problem for them, rather encourage them to think through a plan and then execute it.

Watch your silent messages.

Be aware of the message your body language can broadcast. Turn toward the speaker, make eye contact, and don’t be doing something else while they’re talking. Listen attentively and occasionally respond with a supporting word or two.

There are two old sayings my Dad used to tell me: “It’s better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” Choose your words wisely. And the second one was, “You catch more bees with honey than with vinegar.” This is true of communication too. All of us are only one phone call away from possible disaster, what will the last words spoken between you and family, co-workers, friends, and strangers be? Will they inspire?

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Sunday, 20 August 2017

Learn The Five Secrets To Creating Success In Your Life by Susan Burgess

There are only five secret strategies needed to have success in your life, why have you not perfected them? 

The secrets to success in any venture are about choices. Your choices! 

If each of us has the opportunity to make the same choices, why is it that some will be successful and others judge themselves failures or are complacent and willing to accept that their life just can't get any better? 

How easy is it to sit on the sofa and dwell on the mistakes of the past and blame others for the many failures that have been encountered? 

What would happen if this was the attitude of the coach of your favorite sporting team? If the coach failed to take action to improve the team's skills, my guess is that the coach would soon find themselves without supporters and probably without a team. Success in your life is no different; success is not determined by the circumstances of any your past failures, but by the
actions taken to improve the current and future situation. Success in life means something different to each and every one of us. Success may mean having abundance in riches whereas to others it may simply mean to lose weight and be healthy. No matter what degree of success you are seeking the secret ingredients are the same. 

1) The first secret is related to developing a willingness to accept failures and by using these failures as the stepping stones of success. 

2) The second is despite those past failures, to develop and sustain the inner drive to pursue your predetermined goals. The majority of people are aware of these secrets, but the biggest obstacles faced in attaining success lies in the process of implementing the strategies to overcome the obstacles. 

To lie on the sofa does not take you outside of your walled square. To continually whine and complain is easier and non confrontational, to pretend that your body shape and health are perfect is easier to accept than the need to refrain from the apple pie and block of chocolate you quickly ate on the sly. 

Success in life encompasses many different areas, including religion, politics, business, relationships, career and friendship, with most people developing an opinion at some earlier stage and maintaining that opinion throughout their life. Their understanding of the complex world we live in never changes. 

3) The third secret of success is about what you can give to yourself, the power of knowledge. Knowledge is the greatest of all possessions. 

Success is a science, a developed skill, but many people refuse to move out from their self-sponsored burden and refuse to make a decision to improve their situation. 

Here we have the most important secret to success, the real science, the science that scares the majority, the making of a decision to improve their own situation. The responsibility of making a decision is not a hard task, but it is a continual struggle for many. Developing this skill gives you control of your life, being able to choose the unfamiliar decisions over the comfortable are the keys to progress, they will unlock your door to success. 

Come to terms with and start implementing the strategy of decision making and change in your life will occur. The change may include your beliefs, your attitude, your behavior patterns, but they all represent a change for the betterment of your life. 

4) The fourth secret to your success is to design your success through using the strategies that incorporate the former mentioned goal setting and to introduce creativityInitially set your goals based on your current values, but as you develop changes in your values you need to update your goals accordingly. 

5) Be objective with yourself as well as family and business, visualize your outcomes and then implement the fifth secret, that of planning your action. Action is the basis to long-lasting success. The emphasis you have placed on your new decision means nothing unless you step into the action. Don't be a victim of that old saying, a decision without a plan of action is only a daydream, get into action, don't be a daydreamer regarding your success, just DO it. 

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Thursday, 17 August 2017

8 Common Words You Don't Know Are Making You Sound Unreliable by Brian Lee

Communication becomes more casual every day. Ten years ago, we never would have felt comfortable including a smiley face in an email to our boss, but now in 2017, that seems less unprofessional.
While speaking and writing tend to have different guidelines, we still tend to have more fillers when speaking vs. typing a social media post or a quick message to a coworker. When we speak,
we tend to allow ourselves more fillers; I’ll never forget the time one of my professors in college asked us to count the number of times we said, “like” in one day. Maybe I was hyper-aware, but the number was astronomical.

While it may seem like a small thing at first, the amount of times we use filler words like “um” or “like” in a conversation can make us appear unreliable, no matter how educated or dependable we may be.

Your Word Choice Reflects Your Personality

It’s no surprise that word choice and expression says a lot about someone’s personality, but even the regularity in which words or word categories are used can speak volumes about a person.
Psychologist James W. Pennebaker of the University of Texas at Austin is one of many experts who assert that the way a person expresses thought reveals character. Any time a person speaks, they make choices – choices regarding appropriate nouns and verbs. Those small aspects are part of a bigger context which can provide clues into an individual’s large-scale behaviors 1. Some researchers are so fascinated by this that they have created software to monitor a person’s word choice in order to predict the way they will act in the future.

8 Toxic Words to Avoid

Here is a list of words to limit in daily conversation. I promise you all it takes is a once-over and you’ll suddenly realize how often
you’re saying every single one of them!

Al Verbs: Might, Should, Maybe and Would

While these are some of the most common verbs in the english language, all they do is make the speaker sound unsure of himself. Modal Verbs include, “Might,” “should,” “maybe,” and “would.” While these verbs are easy to include in casual conversation, think about how insincere it makes a friend sound when you invite them to hang out and they reply with something like, “Yeah, maybe. I might have something going on, but I’ll let you know…” The next time you find yourself wanting to use this kind of verb, allow yourself a short pause and mentally delete the words when uttering the sentence. It’ll feel unnatural at first, but before long you’ll be a pro.

Ok

I think we can all agree this is one of the most annoying responses to get when texting someone. Second only to “k,” “Ok” is such a blah response. It makes you sound indifferent and unsure. Plus it’s not even a descriptive term! It basically means “satisfactory.” Who wants that? In text form, it can read like the end of a conversation or even a passive aggressive way to try to be agreeable. These two letters serve as a self-protecting mechanism to avoid giving concrete statements that could be hurtful. If someone asks for your opinion and you regularly offer “Yeah, it’s ok” to avoid hurting them, then you need to understand why it’s not ok to say ok!

Awesome

This word is tricky. If someone tells you about an incredible trip they just took and you respond with, “Wow! That sounds awesome!” you’re probably being sincere. But if you tend to offer up this word regularly, you probably sound a little dense. Sorry! Saying “Awesome!” all the time makes people feel like you don’t have any of your own opinions. I know, I know, it’s just a word. But think about it for a second: When was the last time you were
having a conversation and your friend seemed to say “awesome,” “oh wow. Awesome,” and “cool” after every other sentence? I’ve been in that situation before and it was really frustrating! I didn’t doubt that my friend actually felt that everything I was saying was “awesome,” but the overuse of the word became insincere quickly and made me want to stop sharing my story. It’s a vague word and usually over-exaggerated. I’d rather someone use multiple words to show enthusiasm or give me a compliment than just recycle one word over and over.

Um

Perhaps the most common filler word, “um” is, um, super, um, annoying! I hate to tell you this, but you probably say it so much more often than you realize. For one full day, try to keep a mental tally of how, um, often you, um say, “um.” It’s going to shock you. Even if you’re an intelligent person, overuse of the word makes you seem a bit delayed when it comes to processing thoughts. It’s simple enough to replace it. Instead of saying, “um,” try: “Let me think for a while.” You’re accomplishing the same goal, but the longer sentence gives you a proactive appearance and proves you want to take control the situation.

Like

Stop. Using. This. Filler. Word. If you have ever tried to sit through an hour of reality TV, then you know the word, “like” is the most common word (like) ever. If you’re oblivious enough to have never
noticed it, you’re lucky. Once you start noticing, you can’t stop. The filler word makes you sound childish and it usually isn’t a necessary filler. While you could replace it with “such as” or something similar, if you really analyze a sentence before you speak it, you’ll find you don’t need it at all.

Actually

This word actually isn’t necessary in a majority of situations. The word itself tends to give the impression that whatever was uttered before was not true. If you take the time to look at sentences with this word, you’ll find that nearly all of them can be deleted without changing the meaning/message, while it makes the tone stronger and more direct. For example: The word choices you make can go a long way in showing the kind of person you are. Actually, word choices can predict the kind of person you can be in a conversation. The statement is redundant.

Sorry

This apology can make you seem weak and insecure if used in the wrong context. While you should always want to apologize if a situation warrants it, using “sorry” too often or even habitually can lead to you seeming embarrassed and afraid. If you’re actually wanting to apologize for something, feel free to use the word. But if you’re embarrassed or nervous, explain those emotions in different terms.
Hopefully
While the word itself seems like it should be optimistic, it actually has the opposite effect: using this word implies you aren’t determined or confident enough! For example, if you were my boss and you asked that I have something done and on your desk in two hours, which response would you rather hear from me:
No problem. I’ll take care of that now and get it back to you shortly.
Ok, sure. Hopefully it takes me a little less than two hours. I’ll bring it by when I’m done.
The second response doesn’t say outright that I won’t have the task completed, but it sure doesn’t seem confident. Hopefully means you don’t feel in control of something or confident enough you can create a change. In life, it will sometimes be necessary to be hopeful rather than overly confident, but when it comes to work situations, try to avoid the word as best you can.

The great thing about the list above is that it doesn’t take much effort to implement. In fact, all that’s required to stop using these unreliable-sounding words is self-awareness. Today is a new day. Be present in all conversations and realize how often you’re using the words listed. Then take the steps to replace them and ultimately delete them from casual chats and messages. You’ll be amazed at what a difference it makes.

Tuesday, 15 August 2017

CHANGE YOUR HABITS , CHANGE YOUR LIFE - Amazing Compilation (So Inspiring!)


One day or day one - you decide! You really can change your life now! Listen to this - what do you think?

Is True Success Active or Passive? by Donovan Baldwin

The word "success" gets thrown around a lot, but many people never really think about what it means to be successful. Is success something that happens? Is it experienced? Is success static or in motion?

A simple definition of success could be something about achieving one's goal or goals.

We often read or hear, "he achieved success" in such and such a year or upon completion of a project. Success seems to be viewed by many people as an end in itself. Once reached, some sort of cup or wreath is given to the victor, and they remain "successful" for all time. The term is, somewhat confusingly,
applied in several types of situations. In baseball, a batter may be successful at
a single time at bat, yet not be successful for the entire game or season. A politician runs a successful campaign when he or she is elected to the office which was sought. That same politician may run an unsuccessful campaign and yet be successful in bringing some important issue or issues to the attention of the electorate.

So, it is easy to look at success as being, as mentioned, the achievement of a specific goal, whether your own or someone else's. After all, the ballplayer may be wanting a hit to reach a new record, and his manager may want the hit to make it to one more playoff so he can hold on to his job, and the owner may want the hit in order to win the game and create an atmosphere where he can sell more tickets to future games.

However, if we are to look at success as applied to an entire life, one home run, as successful as it may be at the moment doesn't quite define a person. After all, to continue with the baseball motif, Bobby Thomson hit the "Shot Heard Round The World", a home run that won the 1951 World Series to help the New York Giants win the pennant. He went on to have a good career as a ball player, but never achieved such a high level of (subjective) success as on that particular day. Oddly enough, waiting in the on-deck circle that day was a rookie who would achieve a level of success that Thomson never reached. He was a young kid named Willie Mays. At a later point, Hammerin' Hank Aaron, one of the most successful ball players of all time, got his chance to play in the big leagues due to Thomson's breaking his ankle.
Sticking with baseball just a little longer, let's take a quick look at Roberto Clemente. As a ball player, he won four batting crowns and had 3,000 hits. His achievements as a baseball player include: All-Star (15): 1960-67, 1969-72; National League MVP 1966; Gold Glove (12): 1961-1972; 1971 World Series MVP. His life and career were cut short at age 38 when he died in a plane crash while flying relief supplies to Nicaraguan earthquake victims. Throughout his career, his humanitarianism earned him the respect and admiration of fans, players, and the public in general. If success is doing the right thing for the right reasons, then Roberto Clemente was a successful man, just as Mother Theresa was a successful woman.

While people who achieve what the public tends to applaud as success often do gain fame and wealth, they are also often NOT the people who are considered to be the real successes of a society. And, while we often hear a great deal about people who gain momentary success by achieving some great feat or goal, such as sailing around the world, or scoring the most points in a game, we hear for decades, and often for centuries after they are gone, about those whose lifetime of success was measured in small daily actions and attitudes which contributed to the betterment of their fellow humans or the improvement of the earth upon which we all depend so completely.

So, while not to belittle the amassing of fortunes or benefits of fame, if you would be truly successful, perhaps you should try to achieve something of value each day...something of benefit to all. Perhaps you will find that you enjoy the pursuit of THAT sort of success much more than the pursuit of wealth, fame, or power.

One last note. People such as Angelina Jolie and George Clooney are rich and famous because they live in a world of make-believe and produce make-believe pieces for people who live vicariously through their stories. However, it is possible that they will be more famed and admired for the steps they have taken to improve the world they live in than for what they have done in the world of entertainment. After all, the next movie star can be discovered working at a soda fountain (they still have those?). The person who is going to change the world will have to work at it.

Thursday, 10 August 2017

11 Habits Of Wildly Successful People By Barrie Davenport

The truth is, a large part of what we accomplish in life is governed by our habits.
Habits can lead us to think and act in specific patterns, as they rewire our brains with neural pathways that make the behaviors almost automatic.
Because our habits are so powerful, it is important to pay close attention to the ones that have the biggest impact.
While luck and genetics play a role in your long-term success, there are certain learnable behaviors that will make you more likely to be successful in all your endeavors.
In fact, some “keystone habits” can compel you to perform other positive behaviors, creating
a string of good habits that can significantly improve your life.
Many of these positive habits don't require a major life change — which is hard to pull off without employing dozens of habits.
Instead, making a few small changes to your daily routine can potentially result in an unexpectedly large payoff.
People who are wildly successful — like Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey — understand the secrets of developing these small daily habits.

Here are 11 habits of successful people that you can adopt in your life:

1. They practice willpower.
When you are working toward a goal, it is important to think about what you want vs. what you want right now.
Successful people have the strength to finish what they have started without procrastinating.
When you want something and have a clear long-term goal, you will make it happen.
Some of the world's greatest achievers are people who have a laser focus on their goal and are therefore consistent with their efforts.
2. They read.
We know that reading has considerable benefits, from improving your overall health and well-being to expanding your capacity to have strategic decision making.
People who read are constantly learning about new things, whether it is the biography of someone who was successful before them or just the current events in the news.
Reading can also help improve writing skills and alleviate stress.
3. They have a morning routine.
Developing a morning routine and sticking to it gives structure to your day and allows you to have the energy to accomplish everything that is important to you. Some common morning routines include:
  • gratitude meditation
  • exercising
  • journaling
  • mapping out your MITs for the day
  • responding to important emails
4. They don't sweat the small stuff.
People who are successful don't waste their time worrying about small matters that do not have an impact on their long-term goals.
Instead, they let those things slide or put them aside to deal with later when they are not trying to focus on their work.
Time is a very important variable in the things that we are able to accomplish and the people who choose to spend their time wisely are able to be more successful than those who waste time worrying about irrelevant matters.
5. They wake up an hour early.
There is another hour that you can use in your day to accomplish great things, but you may have slept through it most of your life.
Waking up an hour earlier than usual will take some time to adjust to, but once you do, you won't want to go back to sleeping in.
Early risers tend to be more dedicated and optimistic than those who choose to sleep in, and they are able to anticipate upcoming problems and conquer them more efficiently. This is a crucial element to success in the business world.
6. They complete THAT task first.
There is always that one task that you really don't enjoy doing, but you absolutely have to in order to continue with your work.
Maybe that is calling a certain client that you have to talk to on a regular basis or creating a report that is just tedious.
Reprioritize your to-do list by placing your most dreaded task at the top of the list. Rather
than allowing it to loom over you all day while you are getting other things accomplished, save yourself the stress and get it over with first.
This will provide you with a sense of relief and allow you to be more willing and able to complete any trivial tasks that follow. Remember, you usually have the most energy in the morning when you are feeling the most rested.
7. They find their mantra.
What is your core motivation for being successful?
Is it so you can provide for your family, or retire early and travel the world?
Remember your motivation and create a mantra that will help keep you going during times of stress. Repeat your mantra to yourself each morning while you are taking a deep breath and relaxing.
This will help you feel more motivated and focused throughout the day.
8. They make sure to set aside time to get exercise.
Exercising not only gives you a boost of energy, but it also helps to keep your brain sharp and your stress levels low. Exercising will help you feel ready to take on any issue that comes your way.
It is best to get your exercise over with in the morning because studies have shown that you are less likely to skip your workout if you do it first thing in the morning before you have time to make an excuse to put it off.
Even if it is just a fifteen minute run in the morning, get some physical activity and get your body moving.
9. They keep their space organized.
Whether it is their desk at work or where they handle business at home, there is no clutter or unnecessary items filling the space of people who are successful.
They throw away old papers and excess items that are not used on a regular basis because these things only add a distraction.
Take some time each day to clean up your working space and organize your papers and projects from the day. This will help set you up to be ready to work the next day without having to deal with any clutter.
10. They are self-confident.
Self-confidence is born when one is able to master their skills and their talents.
This is a slow process that builds a sense of trust in yourself, letting yourself know that you know what you are doing and that you are good at your job. This is a key element of success.
It is important to realize that being self-confident also requires a sense of self-awareness. Successful people know who they are and have a defined vision, but while they know their strengths, they are also very aware of their weaknesses.
his allows them to know when they need to seek outside help with a project or get a second opinion.
People who have the most success are aware of the instances in which they need to rely on someone else who may be more equipped to handle a specific problem than they are.
11. They contribute to others.
One of the habits of successful people that may seem counterintuitive is to give to others.
People who are successful make it a habit to provide other people with things of value.
Whether that is intangible items such as knowledge or support or tangible things such as
money and books, looking for ways to give rather than get is an important thing that successful people do.
Research has shown that giving makes people happier than receiving and if you are genuinely happy with your life and the person that you are, you are more likely to be successful.
If any of these habits intrigue you, choose one to focus on for the next few weeks. It can take about four to six weeks for a new habit to become automatic, depending on the difficulty of the habit.
Determine the actions you need to take to develop the habit. Set a consistent time of day, every day to work on it, using a trigger or cue (a previously established habit like brushing your teeth) to remind you.
Create accountability by telling your habit plans to someone else or reporting on your efforts on social media. If you miss a day, just pick up the next day, and don't beat yourself up.
Once your first habit feels solid, move on to another so that you build a series of positive habits that will make you wildly successful too!